Whose song is playing in your life?

Often times we do not even recognize that we are sabotaging ourselves unconsciously due to the every day choices that we make. Something as innocent as feeling hurt, disappointed, betrayed, belittled, crushed, etc. It becomes even more difficult when it is coming from a loved one. There is absolutely nothing wrong with expressing any of these emotions. Indeed, medical research shows that it is actually better to let yourself feel those plethora of emotions instead of bottling it all inside of you and then having one major our-burst due to the pent-up emotions that you have been suppressing. We see people snap on a day to day basis!


It becomes wrong, counter-productive, and outright, self-sabotaging when we unduly fixate on those feelings and unconscionably let them dictate the course of our lives. There are people that experience a physical revulsion at the mere mention of another person's name. This may be due to the fact that they were hurt, betrayed, or disappointed by those people. When we nurture and allow those feeling to thrive within our subconscious, we are in effect permanently mortgaging our body and soul to someone who had deeply hurt us in the past and essentially telling them that we are open to being re-injured and permanently scarred by them. We are essentially dancing not to our own music but the music of someone who had hurt us!


Do you really want to dance to their music? Do you really want to effectively block off the gates to your own present and future blessing due to those toxic, negative emotion that had taken over your life? As hard as it may be, you must forgive the perpetrator, any and every single thing they had done to you! Total forgiveness means you see or remember them without ever feeling that same negative emotion. By so doing, you are making an unequivocal statement to the universe that you do in fact operate on a more positive and healthier frequency than these other people who had hurt you and in the process, throw open the flood gate of blessings. Those blessings perceive you are housing a powerful and positive force and will easily find your life, a really attractive vault to inhabit! Most importantly, you are choosing to dance to your own music; playing your own tune, just the way it should be, after all, it is your life!


Lovingly yours,


Ogor

Inner Peace. . .Got it?

Ever wondered how one can achieve inner peace?

Personally, I have realized that looking inwards and deeply into ourselves and concentrating on fixing our own flaws and not necessarily the flaws of others is a great route to achieving inner peace. Most people unduly fixate in righting what they perceive as the faults of others and lose out on fixing their own flaws. Each time we see ourselves condemning, criticizing, and coercing others to behave more like we would expect them to; we would almost never attain that state of peace of mind because we are constantly looking outwards of ourselves instead of inwards. Looking inwards makes us shine our heart-lights brighter than ever! Imagine how our world will be illuminated when everyone is shining their heart-lights as bright as they possibly can?

When we unduly compare ourselves to others and forget that the competition is not with any other person but with our selves, then we are getting closer to that path of our own peace of mind. The challenge for each and every one of us is to evolve into our best selves possible and not to become more like another person. We have been endowed with amazing will power (untapped in most people) to evolve and become better than we were last month, year, or even yesterday. The competition is with your past self versus your present self. How have you been doing? If you can honestly answer that version of today is far better than your version of yesterday, then you are a step closer to attaining inner peace. That realization and vindication makes you happy and content that you are definitely on the right path.

Finally, honesty, love, and truth may seem boring and inconvenient at times, but it is still the higher route despite what people would say or think of you. The more your actions are infused with those qualities, the closer you are to attaining inner peace given that you are not worrying about people whom you’ve harmed or hurt coming to get you. . .:-)

Kindly share more of your own tips to attaining inner peace.

Lovingly yours,

Ogor

Are you a true friend?

Instead of focusing on other people, have you ever wondered whether or not you, yes YOU, possess the qualities and attributes of a true friend. If you consider yourself a true friend to another, you owe to that other  person, support, encouragement, love, and affirmation not only when they are present, but more so when they are absent. You must openly commend, defend and appreciate your friends when they are present with you. That duty becomes magnified during their absences when others are present. Do you stand up for your friends? If you cannot stand up for your friend when they are not present but chose instead to throw them under the bus and castigate them, you are not being true to that promise of friendship. 


Every aspersion cast on a friend when they are not around is a reflection of your deepest fears, insecurities, and inadequacies and projects poorly on your character. Finally, as always, the eternal truth is that you will eventually get what you gave. It might not happen right away, but it would eventually happen.


Are you a true friend?


Lovingly yours,


Ogor

Knowing yourself is key!

We are counting down to Valentine's day of 2012!!! Yeaaah!!! There are so many reasons why most relationships suffer or simply refuse to take flight and stagnate. I wanted to share a reason that became apparent to me in the last couple of years. Often times, our relationships suffer because we lack a true knowledge of who we are. Knowing ourselves is so much more than being able to know our names and what we like or dislike, it demands that we understand our core strengths and weaknesses and that we truly recognize and realize that in spite of the relationships that we foster in our lives, we are still fundamentally and primarily responsible for ourselves. 


A recognition of that makes us have less expectations from others, thereby ultimately increasing our tenacity and resilience modes in the event of a hurt, disappointment or betrayal from others. How well do you know yourself? That would help you tremendously in fostering much more healthy relationships.


Lovingly yours,


Ogor