Monday, March 21, 2011

Our Feelings are Everything;. . . What are you currently Feeling?

Happy first day of spring! Spring is such a wonderful season. Tis the season of re-birth and re-awakening of all things that appears dead or dormant! Everyone of us needs a re-awakening at some point in our lives. The thought of the first day of spring made me think about this topic!

If someone were to ask you now to describe your pervasive mood today, what would your answer be? Would you answer happy; stressed; anxious; sad; down; excited; tired; angry; grateful; joyful, ? Hopefully you are at a good place. If you happen not to be at a good “feeling mode”, today is just perfect to usher in the right feeling mode with springJ Lets do it!

Why is this so important? Because our “feeling mode” usually influences most of the experience, people and circumstance that we encounter during the course of our day. We’ve all had it at one time or another.  You just wake up from the farthest and wrongest side of your bed and watch your whole entire day go from worse to “WORST” a/k/a, “the day from hell”. Did you know that what you choose to feel at any given time charts the course of your day, your week, your month, your year, and eventually your life? As long as you let the “bad feeling mode” from your morning remain with you throughout the course of your day, you are definitely on the guest list for “the day from hell”. You and I know that it is the worst party to get an invite for!

Our thoughts are everything. It slowly evolves into our feelings. Feelings are very potent emotions. We vacillate and process millions of thoughts throughout the day at really rapid successions. Most of these thoughts end up not influencing our feelings at all. There are however some thoughts that we choose to pay attention to (because they bother us more or for whatever reason) that eventually evolves into our feelings and dictates our pervasive emotion. This is the critical point where we are called to Action!  I say “called to action” because at this point, it demands a conscious effort on our part. What thoughts amongst these millions of thoughts that we think throughout the course of our day should we allow to evolve into the “feeling mode”.  Sad, stressful, negative thoughts should not make that list. They are constantly the ones’ that try the hardest to evolve into the feeling mode. Resist, Resist, and Resist! Turn it back to a great feeling mode because you can and you need great experience and circumstances in your life!

Remember this, thoughts evolve into feelings; feelings are potent creatures that can grow wings and take flight; choose to create only productive and positive feelings that can only gather positive and productive experiences for your life.

I am always painstakingly sifting through my thoughts throughout the day and trying to make a conscious effort to stay on a great feeling mode and be happy even when the odds are stacked against me. (It is so funny because there are times that the odds are not only stacked against you, but has you pinned under it, (LOL!) and the worst thing to do is to allow it also to stomp you on the head through feeling hopeless and down).Think about this carefully,  . . . everyone of us has enormously stressful situations in our lives that bother us a lot. Most times, there is simply not a lot we can do to change it. Right? Why in the world should I stay stressed about a circumstance that i have no control over especially when I have done my part. In such situations, the best we can do is to remain optimistic and usher happy feelings into our “feeling mode”.  Fussing and stressing about it keeps us restricted to a negative place that will as usual, grow wings and take flight by ushering similarly situated events and experiences into our lives.

One of the most significant realization for me in embarking on this journey of finding peace, happiness and success is the realization that the people that are currently in our lives are usually mirror-images of what our feeling mode or frequency has been for a while. If we have people that are constantly whining, pessimistic, hyper-critical of others, negative, etc.; chances are that WE are the same way or slowly drifting to the same feeling mode and frequency. 

Let me share a somewhat funny experience that happened to me in the past week that epitomizes this topic. I wake up late and have to get 3 children and a toddler ready within half an hour; drop everyone off, and be in court that is 25 minutes away.  Pheww!!!! J Great! . . . I woke up screaming at how messed up my day is shaping up to be! I screamed at the older children for not listening to their alarm clock. (When mommy is in this mood, they know there is fire on the mountain, RUN!RUN!RUN!J.  I finally get to put everyone in the car only to realize one of the children is covered in mud because they decided to play for the 5minutes that it took me to get ready. (We had a crazy winter and the snow on the ground recently melted and exposed a substantial layer of mud that my child decided to bath himself with).

 Great!  . . .I come outside to the shock of the mud splatter and spent another 10 minutes cleaning him up while still screaming and lamenting on how hard this stupid day is shaping up for me! I finally dropped the kids off and made it to court (late) only to realize that my case was on the list for the next day (even my calendar had it right but I saw it wrong because of my “bad feeling mode”)! I left the courthouse even more upset at myself and the 25 minutes journey back to my office should have been spent turning my feeling mode around by listening to my inspirational songs CDs but NO, I am still mad at myself!

As I was driving to my office, I thought about the kids’ appointment with their dentist later on that day. I have to pick the kids up early from school for their dentist appointment at 1:15pm. I have to be in their school around 12:30pm. Still mad, I still managed to pick them up from school at 12:30pm. We were in the dentist’s office nice and early at 1:00pm. It took me at least 15 minutes to complete the usual long intakes for the children. I handed it over to the receptionist and then she said, “did you get our message”, “which message” I asked her, “we left you a message that we had to change the time to 3:15pm because the dentist had an emergency but will be back for the 3:15pm slot”. 

OOOOOOOOO;MMMMMMMMMMMMM;GGGGGGGGGGG! !! “What are you saying”, was what I heard myself mutter under my breath! Then and there, I did not need anyone to tell me that I needed to change my frequency for the day from a negative mode to a super duper positive mode! I am thinking how I wasted a perfect day! I pulled the kids from school and they are missing school and it’s too late to take them back because school will be over soon and did she say 3:15pm? I rescheduled the appointment with a huge smile on my face.  I noticed the receptionist staring at me unsure of what to make of the big smile!

Ok, I put the kids back in the car, and explained to them the events of the day and the lesson that I learnt as a result! They got it, thankfully! They reminded me of one of my favorite quotes, “you must be joyful and happy before joyful and happy things can happen to you”. Yeah, my babies needed to remind me of my quote! On our way home, we blasted our inspirational song CD which I should have blasted the minute I came out of my house this morning. I should have accepted the fact that I was late and that no one will die and that the world will still be there and be thankful for a day that I woke up healthy with my entire family and no one had any aches and pains. I should have just been grateful for a new day! I switched it around and we stayed up making home videos of everyone singing their favorite songs! I was feeling really happy and content by the time I put them to bed and hit the pillow myself! I woke up with a huge smile as i reminisced about the events of the previous day:-)

Here are my top must must dos’ to change from a bad feeling mode to a great feeling mode:

1.      When your negative thoughts want to influence your feeling mode, turn it around to a great frequency by thinking about something that you love or someone that you love! Follow it up with an action that puts you back on a positive frequency! Play a song you love or call a friend that you love!

2    Appreciate and be grateful for the blessing in your life especially when it looks like things are going really wrong. It could always be worse. Think about people in Japan, Libya, in hospitals, etc. Your pitiful and negative feeling pales in comparison to the lives of individuals in the afore-mentioned situations!

3.       Constantly check in with your feeling mode and ask yourself what you ‘re currently feeling. If you have drifted to the negative side, turn it around! You gain nothing by being there and everything by being on a positive frequency.

4.       Surround yourself with people on the happy and positive frequency. They will influence your feeling mode for the better.

5.       Give your possible best to every situation and infuse good positive thoughts to the “rest” that you have no control over. It almost always gives you a great outcome.

Now, are you ready to start off your day with a refreshing burst of “Great Feeling Mode” it keeps you and people around you happy and makes your day easier and fun! Constantly check in with your feeling mode/frequency during the course of the day! How are you doing? Take stock at the end of the day. Did you do well? Could you have done better? If your answer is a yes, then you should be getting to work NOW! Let’s all usher in a great feeling mode with Spring! 

Happy first day of spring!

Lovingly yours,



  1. Another outstanding write-up babes!!! Bottom line!! Everything is energy! The way I see it!! It is the” Law of Vibration” which states that waves of vibration that have similar properties attract or merge. So when an individual is consistently thinking and feeling in a certain way their harmonic output will attract similar vibrating things or experiences into their reality. Your illustration in your write-up is definitely a good example of that!!!
    The universe does not keep score of how much negative or positive we send out and attract. It merely provides more of whatever it is we focus our energy on. Your feelings are a quick and handy guide to your vibration in any moment.
    In the event you really feel loving, you might be vibrating at the frequency of appreciate; should you feel angry, you're vibrating at the frequency of anger; when you really feel curious, you're vibrating at the frequency of curiosity, and those vibrations are received by everything and everyone around you!!!
    I totally concur with your summation that if you choose negative thoughts, you emit negative vibrations or frequencies and you will definitely align yourself with that frequency. But if you choose positive thoughts, you do the opposite. When you align yourself with good vibrations by choosing good thoughts, you tune into and attract positive energies. Whether the energy is good or bad, it depends on you. Whether the energy is good or bad, the vibration comes back to you!!!!.
    Super write-up!! Totally enjoyed it!!!!

  2. Interesting read.. Good stuff.. Just what I need now!!

  3. @Ide, You always break this down to its nitty gritty elements! Thanks for constantly teaching and enriching my life and that of my readers! I agree that whatever vibration we emit will come to us! Some good stuff in your comment! Thank you Bubu!

  4. @Felix, Thank you for reading! Glad it resonated with your current situation:-)

  5. Cheers and kudos for the 'must dos' to change from negative feelings/thoughts to a great feeling mode! It seems you had me in mind while you were writing this. Last week I was in the doldrums and really once these negative thoughts or feelings comes it affects every aspect of one's life spreading like a virus. Actually someone set it off and I felt I was giving so much but getting grief in return! I must make a conscious effort to 'switch' taking in all the 5 pointers for a positive turn around. One can never go wrong with happy positive people as it is often said ... "You can't stay mad at someone who makes you laugh".
    I am indeed blessed to have a positve minded friend like you, Ogor.

  6. Awwww Ime, so glad that it came timely for you. We all have those days where the negative feeling mode spirals out of control only because we let it:-(. Don't ever let anyone take you to that dark side.

    Thank you always for reading the articles and finding them helpful:-) I am glad to have met you through this forum because you too are committed to staying positive. :-)


  7. You sure do have the patience and talent required to write .. I did not know you had 4 kids lol ... but you are right .. The world won't stop and nobody will die if you are late for an appointment . Nice write up !

  8. @Bisi, thank you my dear. Glad you enjoyed it! Yes, they are four little ones:-). Crazy times will come and go and stressing about it only mutates the craziness.

    You are right, that fateful day last week, . . .YES,I was late, . . . YES, no one died, and . . . YES,the world still continued:-)

  9. Well written article, I enjoyed it. You are right when you wrote "Our thoughts are everything;It slowly evolves into our feelings;Feelings are very potent emotions". "Most of these thoughts end up not influencing our feelings at all". Keep it up.

    Note: sorry for responding late,I have been very busy.Cheers!